some feathery stroker stuff to mull over……..


Yesterday someone posted one of those irratatingly annoying feathery stroker “words of wisdom” thingy-ma-jigs on facebook. Now I never read that crap. ‘Coz its as boring as….watching paint dry.

But….. and a BIG but at that….yesterday one of the sentences caught my eye.

It said…”If someone doesn’t like you…its none of your business

Huh? That stopped me clean in my tracks.

If someone doesn’t like you…it’s none of your business.

And I thought about this. And I mulled over this the whole day. I’m still deliberating over this at the moment. In fact I think I may be contemplating over this sentence for a while.

It’s so true. ‘Coz if someone doesn’t like you, it really is none of your business. It’s their problem. It’s their business. They are the ones having to deal with this.

Why worry about something you can’t change? It’s a waste of time. It’s a waste of energy.

So…I dedicate this post to two girls in my “in-law family” that I spend so much time and effort over..I dedicate this to them. I love them, but I don’t like them. Well for the moment anyway.

I read somewhere that its easy to love someone. You love someone for life. But liking is SO much more difficult. You have to work at the liking bit. ‘Coz we don’t like everyone all the time do we?

But I know that I’ve worked hard at getting them to like me. I’ve been kind, and interested in their lives.

and well… the end of the day…when all’s said and done…

if they don’t like me…it’s their business.

‘coz whats not to like?



5 responses »

  1. I learnt several years ago through CBT that I am not responsible for other people’s emotions, nor can I control what other people feel and think.

    I know it sounds flippant to say it — and logic goes “of course you can’t” but the problem is that I still think I can, or that I am responsible for them if they are sad/happy/they like me/they don’t like me.

    I still have not got to the stage where I am able to fully “get” that I am not responsible for what other people think/what they like/and whether they like me —-

    In the mean time I get to ruminate about it for hours on end though.

    • and I SO enjoy reading about it. LOL. I know…. it’s easier said than done. These things can be hectic and hurtful. I’m trying to make myself feel better. Also trying to take the moral high ground, which has NEVER come easy to me.

  2. It’s very true. That’s why I prefer dealing with someone who is a blatant racist or homophobe (choose your -ism) because I know that nothing I can say or do will change their narrow mind so I don’t even try. If they don’t like me (for example because I’m married to a person of another race or of the same sex), that’s their issue. I can only be me. I’m just civil and move on.

    BTW in the light of some of your recent posts, when I saw your heading about feathery stroker stuff, I thought I was going to read about some erotic adventure. LOL! Along the lines of: the difference between erotic and pornographic is whether you use a feather or the whole chicken …

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